Some people may be able to accept a death immediately, while others will live in denial for weeks or even months. Some people will never get angry that does not mean anger is wrong. Years ago, there was a belief that our grief should follow certain stages. Thus, there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Even two twins, who are grieving the same parent, will grieve differently. The answer to all of those is “yes” … and “no.” No one will grieve the same way, because no one had exactly the same relationship as we had with the person we lost. Do others grieve as horribly as I do? Do others keep carrying this around for so long? Do others have the same fears and anger that I have? Do others feel that God does not care? Yet, no matter when grief comes to call, we often find ourselves wondering if this is the way grief should be. And Christmas always brings back memories of those who once gave us gifts or for whom we no longer need to buy a gift. We may feel grief rear its ugly head when we are aware of the empty place at the Thanksgiving table. 2, when the Church observes the feast of All Souls and we remember in a special way all those loved ones who have gone before - whether just a few weeks ago or many years ago. Regardless of how recent or how long ago, grief can often intensify or sneak back for a visit during the fall and winter seasons. Grief enters all of our lives at different times and in different ways.
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